Wednesday, April 18, 2018

See Food Diet

I'm on a see food diet… I see food, I eat it. Get it?

I've been trying to cut down on carbs and sugar for a few days now and man, the struggle is real. My husband and I eat our meals together all the time. Breakfast after sending the kids to school, breakfast date is a must. This week, I'm trying not to eat but it has not been successful. For the first 2 days of my diet, I ate Nasi Lemak for breakfast! *hides face under the pillow*

To be fair, I didnt eat rice all day even for dinner and I eat more vegetables. The nasi lemak I had was a small packet type and although I could easily finish 3 packets in one sitting, I only had one.That's OK right? My friend said I failed on all levels. Hahah…. give this fat lady a break!!!! I can't quit cold turkey can I?

So, dieting sucks, in case you want to know.

But I'm trying. Trying really hard. I swear! I even walked down the stairs instead of taking the lift down, you know? That's something, right???

I'm also feeling super bloated because my period is coming soon. I usually have the best appetite during this time of the month so I'm guessing my super huge appetite is because it is coming soon.
Once that is done, I'm back to being normal. Normal means I eat like a regular person would eat.

I went to the club to use their sauna & steam room for 2 days in a row. That's as much "exercise" I can do for now because I am really not a gym person. I was sweating buckets. I never sweat normally. On the second day, I used this recipe to do a fat buster oil and applied it before I went in to the sauna.

Again, I was sweating like crazy. After sauna, my body feels so tired I could sleep! I realise I'm really not sweating enough and I should start exercising. This is something I know I should do but haven't been doing. Also, I am drinking more water than I normally do, which is not a lot at all.

Just drinking enough water is making my skin feels more hydrated and supple. But you know, I am never thirsty so I need to constantly remind myself to drink. My lovely sister in law bought me a pretty glass water bottle for my birthday last year. When I got it, I remember thinking to myself I will never use it but I'm so happy that I finally get to use it now. I love it. I carry it around now even during school runs and I'll have my water in the car. I love my sister in law! Such a useful gift that was. A good reminder too because I never drink enough.

When I told my husband that I put on 5kg, he didnt believe me. He asked me "where?" and when he said that, I took it as I dont look fat. Whether or not he was trying to be nice, I have no idea but this conversation took place today….

Me: Yang, If I'm fat, will you still love me?
Husband: You are already fat!


He then tried to cover it up……

Me: (Angry) What!!!!!!!! Dont be rude!
Husband: Whattt?? You said you are fat that day.
Me: I can say it but you can't!
Husband: I'm just saying what you're saying. To me you're not fat.


I really need to go back to 55Kg. 4kg to go………
You can do this….

Monday, April 16, 2018

Diet Starts TODAY!

I know many people who are very much into fitness. I'm not one of those people. It is something I've never enjoyed doing and if I'm blessed to be skinny all my life, I will probably skip gym all together. I've never really been active. Back in college, when I was living in Cambridge, my housemate who is a very good friend of mine until today would drag me to the gym. She was really into it. I've always been one of those who can eat a cow and still remain skinny but my friend isn't one of them. She loves food as much as I do but she will put on weight if she doesn't exercise. She would drag me to the gym and I would go with her for the sake of going. After doing a depressing 5 minutes workout, I will bug her to go home. I was that annoying friend. I would just follow her around while she works out and irritate the hell out of her. So yes, gym and me dont get along even back in those days. Today, maybe 15kg heavier, I am still not a fan. I have a gym at home and I think I've only been there for maybe less than 5x and for not more than 10minutes. Thinking about working out tires me out already.

Last week, I went to the blood bank to donate blood. I have A- blood which is one of the rare type of blood and they would always call me when theres a shortage. I went there and had to weigh myself and I was shocked to see the numbers! OMG. I've put on 5kg. Since when????

I know I love food and my appetite is really good too but 5kg is A LOT!!!!

Diet starts today!!! I am freaking out!!!!

Here's the plan:

1. I'm going to force myself to drink more water because drinking water is always good. I dont drink enough anyways!

2. I'm going to cut down eating sambal. Dont you think sambals make food so much nicer? I think so. I can eat 3 plates of rice if there's a bomb of a sambal next to me. I am obsessed with Aleeya's Kitchen sambal. Go look for them on IG. Im obsessed with their sambal pucuk ubi. It is so good it is so bad!
I really need to cut down my sambal intake. When my sambal intake is cut, my rice portions will cut automatically too. Rice without sambal is just so blehhhh.

3. Cut down taking carbs. I am a carbs person. I love rice, pasta and everything carbs. I am going to stop eating rice for dinner. I think by cutting down my sambal, I won't eat that much rice. I plan to just eat the lauks at night. I'm such a dinner person. I can skip breakfast / lunch but I cannot skip dinner. I just love to eat dinner. It is the best part of my day. But I'm going to change this habit.

4. Cut down on sugar. Well, I've cut down on cakes A LOT because my favourite baker moved away from Malaysia (whyyyyyy ohhh why!!!) but I still manage to put on 5kg without her delicious cakes. That's really bad. I need to cut down on sugar. Having said that, I have 2 cheese tarts in the fridge from Pablo waiting for me. Argh……… stay away from me!!!!

5. Exercise! Walk. Or whatever!
This morning, I started going for sauna. I dont think that counts as exercising but at least I was sweating. That counts right? OK from today onwards, maybe later in the evening, I will go to the gym for a 10 minutes walk on the treadmill. How's that???

Why does life have to be so difficult!

I need to do this!!! Let's see if I can lose 5kg by raya. You think??
Sunday, April 15, 2018

Let's VOTE!

Anyone excited about the general election coming up soon? I am.

The 13th Parliament of Malaysia was dissolved recently on the 7th April 2018. For the first time ever, I waited for the news and was early waiting for the announcement for the next election date. I dont know why but it felt different now. This time, I feel like I MUST vote whereas before this, I wasn't all that interested. I know, shame on me!

I still have no idea which way I want to go. I know that politics is never really clean and whichever way I go, I doubt my life will change all that much but whatever it is, I MUST vote. For a better Malaysia, for a better future and although it won't change much for me, I have to vote for the rest of people of Malaysia. Every vote counts. *inserts NEGARAKU song*
I'm doing my part for a better Malaysia.

I saw a video recently, posted by a friend on her FB on the rules and how to vote. I'm going to summarise that video here especially for the first-time voters so that come 9 May 2018, you will know what to do:

1. Check your voting area at this website. Key in your IC number and if you are registered, you will see all the information needed. This includes your full name (as per IC), your locality, Parliament, State and where you should go on that day to vote. Normally it is a school somewhere. Check all the details are correct.

2. On the voting day, make sure you BRING YOUR IC (very important as you won't be allowed to vote without it! Only IC, not driving licence,ya!). If there's something wrong with your IC, bring your passport!

3. Do not wear any shirts or anything with any party's logos. Your undi is rahsia, dont need to tell the whole world about it by wearing it!

4. No nail polish. Well, I dont know what is the reason behind this, but just make sure you remove your nail polish before going to vote. I guess it would be difficult to apply the indelible ink on your nails if they are painted.

5. Check your ballot paper and make sure it is clean from any markings. If there is any markings on your ballot (even if it is just a tiny dot), be sure to call and inform the SPR staff to get it changed. You must vote on a clean, empty ballot paper.

6.  Leave an X in the column next to your candidate of choice. Dont be mistaken and put a tick (√) because many of us do. Remember X not √. In the box and not outside the box! I know it sounds simple but theres so many undi rosak every pilihanraya we just need to be careful. We dont want undi rosak! No smudges or markings on your ballot too please!

7. Do not use your phone while voting. I know you want to instagram it, but dont! You can instagram your finger after the session (that's probably what I'll do!). haha...

8. Check for your serial number and certified stamp on your voting ballots. You can get your serial number details at the link I gave earlier. If your ballot doesn't have this serial number and certified stamps, inform the SPR staff. You're not allowed to bring home this ballot paper out. You can go to prison for this. It is not worth jail time! If you happen to have extra, make sure you hand it back to the staff and see that they void it!

9. Dont lepak at the voting area. You need to be 50meters away from the polling station. If you are waiting for someone, then wait somewhere else. I'll wait in the car for my husband most probably. Loitering around the are is an offence. They might think you are trying to get back in or something. You can also go to prison for this. Again, not worth the jail time.

10. Vote for a better Malaysia!

I think my readers are all set to vote this coming General Election! Let's do this!!!!! We have about few weeks to go before the day comes, let's get to know our candidates better. All the best!!!!
Thursday, April 12, 2018

Pre Google Days

Do you notice how dependent we are on the internet these days? I don’t know about you but I am constantly on my phone browsing and “researching” something. I have a love-hate relationship with our lifestyle today. I love that information is available at our fingertips at any time of the day but I hate that information are so readily available that we have all become too darn lazy. I’m guilty as well.

I can’t remember when exactly life started being like this but I remember not too long ago, maybe about 10 or 11 years ago when my husband and I (we weren’t married yet at the time) driving around Bangi looking for Equatorial Hotel. My mum had organized a makan-makan there with my whole family and her employees. We didn’t have Waze back then. My husband's car had a GPS but somehow we didnt really know how to use it properly. We had to stop at a few petrol station to ask for directions as we’ve never been to that side of the world. 

I can’t remember why my mum had the gathering there but ya, it was quite hard trying to get directions but we made it. Although it probably took us 30 minutes more without Waze, the most important thing was, we made it. It was fun and wasn’t stressful at all despite the difficulty finding the place. Imagine if Waze took you to the wrong place this day and age? You would be pissed off and stressed out like crazy. My point is, sometimes technology too can stress us out. Sometimes it is technology that stresses us out even more. I guess we should always go back to the days where asking petrol station staff for directions was the way to go and imagine how blessed we are that we don’t have to do that anymore.

Last night, my son gave me a heart attack. I swear to god that boy really made me so angry I wanted to scream! And trust me, I DID! VERY LOUD!

It was their dinner time and I was literally on my sejadah and just started my magrib prayers. As I was in my first rakaat, I heard a loud BANG!!! Trying to stay kusyuk, I was processing the sound. What did it sound like? It sounded like someone just banged their head either on the floor or on the wall! I waited for few seconds waiting for someone to yell or scream or cry and continued my prayers but then I heard the screaming and crying! I’m sorry Allah, I stopped my prayers half way and ran out. True enough, my hero had done some backflip on the sofa and somehow landed on the floor!Omg!!!!

My maid was hugging him and rubbing his head. Instead of grabbing a pack of ice or ice pack, she took her long hair and rubbed it against his bump. What??!!! *scratches head* (is that some kind of petua or something? Grab the freaking ice pack will ya!!) urgh! I was furious. I don’t know who at, but I was furious!!! At my maid for not stopping him when he was doing the backflips (because I heard him saying how he is doing it while I was praying - so not kusyuk as you can tell) and I’m angry at him for doing backflips as if he knows how!!

He didn’t cry, tears are there but he didn’t cry as much as I thought he would. He looked at me with that look “ouch that hurts but I better not tell her or she will scream at me!” look. He said to me “don’t worry mummy, I’m being strong ya? (For not crying)". He looked so cute because I know he is in pain but trying to hide it all. Putting on a brave face when he is in pain and in shock.

After putting the ice pack on his head, I could feel the bump is the size of a ping pong ball! My heart was freaking out. I was so angry but thankful as it could have been worse! We could have been on our way to ER for yet another stitch or glue on the head! Oh my son... why do you do this to mummy? U know I have a weak heart!!

I went to my oil rack and opened up my oil app to see what oils are good for bumps and bruises. Helichrysum and Geranium it is. I made the blend and added vitamin E oil as a carrier oil and rubbed it on his head. He said it hurts even more after I put the oils on his bump. It is because there’s a little cut too. It was bad. 

He couldn’t eat dinner. He said it was too painful but he was dancing to the Panama Dance my daughter had on my husband’s new mini speaker. *rolls eyes*
After he went to bed, I touched his head and yea it is getting bigger. Everytime I touched it, he will move from his sleep. Even the slightest touch he will move which means it must hurt. I contemplated giving him pain killers but I went to my medicine cabinet and only saw paracetamol. I wasn't even sure if it has expired. I didnt give him anything in the end. I put the ice pack on him again and he started crying in his sleep. I knew it was painful. So what I did was a soaked a muslin cloth with cold water and added a few drops of lavender oil and frankincense. I left it on his bump and just let it sit there. Halfway through the night, I got up and the cloth has almost dried up, I did it again. Alhamdulillah, when he got up that morning, the bump is not that bad anymore and has gone done.

Anyway, I was telling my family group chat about it. My mum, aunts, siblings and cousins are in that group and they were all saying how ganas my son is (because they know his history of ER trips to glue his forehead together!) and then stories came out about how my brother used to get my youngest brother to so silly things. One of it was to eat a AAA battery to be "strong". My youngest brother did it and obviously he landed in the hospital for it. The conversation became so funny when my brother said that the reason why he listened to his elder brother at that time was to be "Strong" like him and he said there was no Google to verify the information (whether eating battery will make you strong or not!). Haha. we had a good laugh about it. Back then we didnt have Google. It was fun.

I miss Pre Google days sometimes.

Monday, April 9, 2018

Reasons to start using Essential Oils

I have been using essential oils for a while now. Maybe coming to 3 years almost. Initially, I just wanted to make my home smell nicer. I know they all smell good. Essential oils are everywhere. You can see them even at the grocery store where you can find them and they're quite cheap. It is a lifestyle for sure.

The only smell I am familiar with before I started being a super oiler or an oil person was lavender. When I first started using Young Living essential oils, I discovered that Lavender DO NOT smell like the store bought Lavender products. The real pure essential oils dont smell as nice. They smell different. Then I found out that the reason why most products smell nice is because they added perfume to it and more often than not, it has chemicals in them. The more I learn about chemicals and how harmful they can be, the more I wanted to move away from them. As much as possible, I try to stay away from products that has harmful chemicals in them. Still a work in progress..but one I chose to take.

My whole perception of essential oils changed once I got to know about Young Living. The whole oil game totally changed for me. I stopped using my medicine cabinets as much and replaced it with my  own DIY first aid kits, using my oils. I started using oils in my beauty rituals. I even stopped using commercial perfumes. My kids started sleeping better. I find that their immune system is also stronger. We also got rid of skin issues my daughter had using essential oils. Our home became healthier and ya, it smells nicer too. I started using homemade cleaners (made with essential oils). My house smells wonderful and I am also in a better mood more than ever. When things smells nice, your mood changes too. It is hard to be grumpy when your surrounding smells beautiful isn't it?

I started slow but eventually, after almost 3 years I can finally say that I am becoming a #superoiler. I am eliminating harsh chemicals one by one. Slowly but surely it is going in the bin….

My first purchase was the Premium Starter Kit. It has all the oils you need to get started. I bought mine for about RM700 plus and it came with a Dewdrop Diffuser. This was over 2 years ago. I remember thinking when I first got the kit was "how the heck am I going to use all these oils?" but funnily enough, it was gone within a month or so because they were all very popular useful oils. Trust me you NEED all the oils in the Premium Starter Kit. They're all super useful.

The oils I have are mostly for health purposes. We are overall a healthy family (alhamdulillah) and I want it to stay that way. Instead of grabbing paracetamol, which my kids absolutely hate… I now run to my oil counter and apply oils on their feet instead. In case you are wondering whatever happened to IZUMIO and Super Lutein, I still consume both those products too. These oils are a booster so to speak and I must say with the oils, I dont need to consume as much IZUMIO and Super Lutein anymore. In the end, it saves me some money.

In my First Aid Kit, I have all sorts of oils for various reasons. For example, I have lavender that is pretty much good for everything, especially for cuts and bites. I also have peppermint (for headaches, flu, cold) and Digize (for tummy aches). I also have Thieves. This are all must-have oils that I have with me and take with me everywhere I go. I also take my diffuser on every trip because I like how my room smells so nice before I go to bed.

There are a bunch of oils I use for my kids. My kids knows how to operate my diffuser and if I allow them, they will be happy to choose which oil to diffuse that night. It's so cute how my daughter will randomly say "Ohhhh, give me that Stressaway oil!" as if she is stressed out being a kid. She knows the names and what oils to use for what reason.

Although my kids are generally healthy kids, they still get the occasional flu and the sneeze and whatever else they bring back from school. I usually treat them the best way I know how using my oils before I start medicating them with stuff prescribed by the doctor. My immune booster recipe is really awesome. I took them with me in Jakarta and despite the occasional sneezes my daughter gets while we were there (the air was not clean. Too much pollution and she was sneezing a lot) she was all OK. I'll share the immune booster recipe next time.

I'm a beauty products hoarder. If you can see my bathroom, it was filled with all sorts of beauty products from different brands. I spent so much money on beauty products and sometimes, I hardly even use it and when I want to use it again, it is expired! Such a waste of money.

Lately, I stopped buying so many products. I use less products on my face for sure because I roughly know what works and what doesn't. I save a lot of money too in this process. I share with you before how I now make my own cleansing oil, remember? I've been doing this for so long and I love it. I've tried many recipes and I am still exploring. There are so many oils to use for skin and my favourite are Geranium, Frankincense, Melrose and Lavender. Lavender is the best for beauty because it is suitable for all skin types. Other than my awesome oil cleanser, I also DIY my under eye serum recently. I made the blend last week and so far so good. I also use oils at night on my pigmentation spots. You dont need to throw away your beauty products, you can also add oils into them. For example, I still use my normal moisturiser by Dermalogica but I will sometimes add a drop of Frankincense when I apply it at night before bedtime.

I also dont use the store bought deodorant anymore. I DIY them using my essential oils and so far, no one is complaining I stink! That's another product with chemicals that I have eliminated from my routine. I have a huge collection of perfumes. My husband buys them for me every now and then and somehow I dont use it as much. I dont know why but suddenly the smell is too strong for me. It is the same perfume I've been using for years but suddenly I dont fancy it anymore because they're too strong. Instead, I just were my favourite oil as perfume. Apply it on my wrists, behind my eyes and the back of the neck, sometimes also a drop on my baju and I'm done. That doesn't mean my perfumes are just left unused, I still use them…but not as often and I've stopped buying perfumes for now. I use my DIY body spray too. I will share the recipe next time. They're all easy to make and best part is, that's another product with chemicals I can chuck away. You do what you can to reduce the dependency on products with toxic chemicals whenever you can.

This is something I am still working on slowly. I tend to use more essential oils on myself and my kids but lately, I've started exploring this side of it.

I used to buy those air freshener from various places, mostly the supermarket. You know those ambi pur type. They smell really strong, dont they? Yeah, they contain lots of harmful toxic chemicals, btw. Now, instead of getting those, I make my own home spray. It is so easy to make and it works just as well. Perhaps the smell doesn't last as long like ambi pur does but who cares? Keep spraying, it doesn't matter. It is safe and non toxic. My favourite combination is lime + white angelica. It is the best. Especially when you feel there is negative energy in the house, I spray it more and more. It works for me.

Few weeks back, I discovered baby cockroaches in this cabinet in my kitchen. I almost panicked because why are there so many of them when the night before, there isn't any. I made a blend of essential oils and put it in a spray bottle and walaaaaa… is all gone. Dead. All of them baby cockroaches and I have not seen any after that. They're all natural (I put peppermint + citronella + purification + lemongrass essential oils in a spray bottle and filled it up with normal tap water). It kills them and there is no chemical in it unlike Ridsect or Baygon spray, which you obviously shouldnt use in the kitchen anyways!

It reminded me of my friend's story of how her maid kept spraying the cabinet where they store all their plates and cups daily with Ridsect to get rid of cockroaches! Imagine that and then you eat on that plate! Bad enough the cockroaches are there, then the Ridsect spray on top of that. The chemicals you will end up consuming when you use that plate to eat. Gosh. So my way, I get rid of cockroaches, prevent them from going and it is completely natural.

Other than the home spray, the bug repellent spray, I also use essential oils to disinfect my house. Especially the kid's toys. I also DIY linen spray. I make a spray and get my maid to spray our linen daily. It smells really nice and fresh everyday.

This section is still a learning process for me. I want to use more essential oils for my home for sure. Why wouldn't I? It is safer, cheaper and easy to make.

I have tried cooking and adding essential oils in them. I mostly use Lemon. I ran out of lemon for my grilled chicken one day and added my lemon essential oil instead. It tastes just as good.

I love adding lemon essential oil in my water. I drink this daily. Most western recipes uses a lot of herbs and stuff where you can replace them with essential oils but I haven't really explored much of this side because I dont cook a lot of western food at home.

I guess I've given you more than 10 vital reasons you should use essential oils right? Do you still want me to list them down for you? Here goes:

1. You can replace products that are full of harmful toxic and move towards DIY more natural products. Eliminating toxic products should be something you want to do anyway because why do you want to use chemicals when you can go natural?

2. Boost your immune systems and fight infection the natural way. I'm not claiming to be a doctor but if you can treat something the natural way first, why not?

3. You want your home to smell like a spa (that's me, at least). But not only that, you get the benefits from diffusing it too. Unlike other products, when you diffuse essential oils, you get the benefits from that essential oils too. It doesn't just smell nice, it is good for you too. Diffusing lavender not only gives you lavender scents, you get the benefits from lavender too. Lavender balances the blood pressure, can help with insomnia, calms the body and soul - for example.

4. You can DIY a lot of products. Body scrubs, shower gels, facial cleansers, home spray, foot soaks are all the simple things you can do from home. You know what goes into each products. Do you know how much chemicals are there in your regular hand soap? Look at the ingredients and see. I can bet you, you dont know half the stuff that is in there. By DIY'ing, you know what goes in and more often than not, it only contains few items. It works just as well. Much cheaper too!

5. It's fun to experiment with all the different oils. It took me 2 years to actually learn about some of the properties in an essential oil. It is a never-ending learning process. I'm still learning because there is over 300 over different essential oils. I dont think I will stop learning. Learning about them can be fun for your kids too. They should know whats good for them and what is not because they will continue this when you are not around…

6. Essential Oils can boost your energy level and reduce stress. Close your eyes and pretend you are in a spa (minus the screaming children). When I was stressed out, I have few oils that I use and inhale. It doesn't totally get rid of the stress but at least it helps me feel better.

7. Natural way to have beautiful skin. Add essential oils in your beauty rituals. It is easy, fun and good for you.

8. Have better sleep. So many people have told me essential oils help them sleep better. Of course it does. When your room smells good, you can relax better and of course sleep better. My son wakes up a lot at night, when I apply vetiver on his wrists and get him to inhale it before he doze off, he will wake up at night less. I can't sleep when I dont have my diffuser on. I take my diffuser with me all the time when I'm on holiday.

9. You save a lot money from using essential oils. Yes, your initial investment may be high. Premium Starter Kit would be the best initial investment. RM756.00 and that should last you for quite some time while you learn more about each oils. Then, monthly you will just need to replenish the ones that are finished, if you want. Otherwise, explore, explore, explore…….. so many to explore. Trust me, you will be hooked on it.

10.  Essential oils are good for you. It is. It really is. You should use it daily, all the time. Duh.
Sunday, April 8, 2018

Portable Diffuser GROUP BUY


Hello there!
I am initiating a group buy for the Young Living ORB Diffuser, shipped in directly from US (it is not available in Malaysian Market as of now).

It is a small and portable diffuser. You can diffuse it anywhere - on your office desk, or in your car and it is connected via a USB port. Anywhere there's a USB port, you can diffuse it. It can diffuse up to a maximum 4.5 hours.

Here is the current offer:

Option 1: Diffuser only RM145 (including shipping from the US and tax)
There will be free pick up however, postage by poslaju may apply if pickup is not available.

Option 2: Diffuser with essential oil RM200 (including shipping from the US and tax)
There will be free pick up however, postage by poslaju may apply if pickup is not available.

For option 2, you may choose ONE of the following oils
Lemongrass (15ml)
Lemon (15 ml)
Orange (15 ml)
Cedarwood (15 ml)
Spearmint (5ml)
Jade Lemon (5ml)

Closing date / Last order will be by 15th April 2018 and ETA for the product to arrive is in May.
There will be free pickup available at Titiwangsa, KLCC area, Damansara, Taman Tun, Ampang or Petaling Jaya. Postage by poslaju may apply if pickup is not available.

If you want to read or learn more about this diffuser, you can email me. It is a cute little diffuser that I think would be an awesome gift for yourself or for your friends. I'm getting it myself so I am just opening the group buy for my readers as well. Let me know if you want to join it!
Monday, April 2, 2018

Sorry, I forgive you and thank you

Remember how I am currently "soul searching"? Well, I am. I still haven't found the answers I'm looking for but I think I am making some progress. I am actually learning some new things about myself. I'm turning 39 years old this year and it is amazing that there are still new things I am learning about myself. Everyday is a learning process, isn't it?

Recently I discovered that I dont say "sorry", "I forgive you" and "thank you" enough. Simple words I just somehow ignore. Well, not most of the time, but they dont come out of my mouth as often as it should. Let me give you an example….

1. I dont say sorry unless I am REALLY sorry! Sometimes, saying sorry is the easiest and fastest way to resolve an issue and an argument but no, with me, I dont say it unless I really mean it. Sometimes, even if I am sorry, I dont say it!

2. I dont forgive easily. I just hold grudges, which is so bad. I'm ashamed that I do but I dont forgive and forget. I dont forgive easily and let's face it, I dont forget easily too! I just keep it inside for so long and that is something I want to change about myself. Forgiving others is actually not so much about benefiting the person that wronged you, forgiving can actually give you peace. I believe this because whenever I forgive, I feel at ease and I feel free.

3. I do say thank you but I feel like I need to say it more. I'm thankful for the little things people do for me daily but I just take it for granted that they know. My husband says thank you whenever I help make an appointment for him for haircut (for example), if I told him to make the appointment for me, I would forget to say thank you. You know, little things like that. I think needs to change.

Moving forward, I will remind myself to say those words more. I noticed my daughter doesn't like to say sorry too whenever she's done something wrong and it irks me. My son is the opposite. He says sorry all the time, even when he doesn't really mean it. I spoke to my kids one day about the importance of saying sorry, forgiving someone and saying thank you. I try to explain to them the best way I can. They get it.

After prayers and after saying our doas, we will all salam each other and give each other a hug. Now, I told them to add another thing. We will say sorry to each other, forgive each other and say thank you.

"I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings today"
"I'm sorry too. I forgive you"
"Thank you for everything"

It's beautiful.